relationship need trust.
but what if ders no trust.?
love without trust ?
Love without trust is nothing. Personaly I dont think that you can truely love a person if you cant trust them. It can be an illusion or a crush but not true love. If you can trust a preson then you cant have a meanful relationship with that person. Its just two people that are in with each other. Nothing more.
---LostWithoutYou14.
Love without trust is no love at all. Love is based on trust. The minuite your lover has cheated or especially falls for another that person doesn't love you and that trust destroys and love also destroys because they goes together.Or maybe the person is using one of them to fullfil the void that lives in them.
---rosepoet.
Trust is part of equal love
For me, trust is an essential part of love between equals (such as marriage between a woman and a man). It involves believing promises (whether marriage vows or smaller matters). A healthy and useful love of an equal is an inexplicable attraction to another, so I will not try to explain it--you will know it when you have it. Trust means having confidence that a person will always do the "right" thing by one, doing what they promise they will do. Saying positively that they will do something, even a small thing, amounts to a promise unless it is specifically retracted before the event. This retraction might be applied even to "big" things like marriage vows, though such retraction is liable to lead to immediate mistrust, and eventually the destruction of love. A person who has learned to mistrust because of bitter experience will have to unlearn that mistrust before they can properly love an equal.
Notice that a relationship can change. For example, the love relationship with one's children (not, in this case, an equal relationship) usually does change when they have grown up. When they are old and wise enough, the love of one's children will now include trust, though it did not before.
Except in the case of one's own children, love cannot long survive the loss of trust.
Trust, however, can exist in the absence of love. For example, we would like to trust our elected representatives (politicians etc.) Every person, who has not by bitter experience learned to mistrust anything and everything, will freely give trust to anyone, provided they are not positively known to be untrustworthy, or possibly if they are suspected of being untrustworthy by reason of being in some untrustworthy category (eg. strangers, young children, members of an untrustworthy organization, etc.). In other words, trust is giving the benefit of the doubt when one's own "knowledge" is felt to be wanting. When one "knows" from independent sources then of course there is no doubt, unless that "knowledge" is newly considered doubtful in the light of what a loved one, for example, has said.
Specifically, one must trust one's marriage partner if one is to love them. Love without trust is not a basis for any permanent equal relationship.
---abssy.
Notice that a relationship can change. For example, the love relationship with one's children (not, in this case, an equal relationship) usually does change when they have grown up. When they are old and wise enough, the love of one's children will now include trust, though it did not before.
Except in the case of one's own children, love cannot long survive the loss of trust.
Trust, however, can exist in the absence of love. For example, we would like to trust our elected representatives (politicians etc.) Every person, who has not by bitter experience learned to mistrust anything and everything, will freely give trust to anyone, provided they are not positively known to be untrustworthy, or possibly if they are suspected of being untrustworthy by reason of being in some untrustworthy category (eg. strangers, young children, members of an untrustworthy organization, etc.). In other words, trust is giving the benefit of the doubt when one's own "knowledge" is felt to be wanting. When one "knows" from independent sources then of course there is no doubt, unless that "knowledge" is newly considered doubtful in the light of what a loved one, for example, has said.
Specifically, one must trust one's marriage partner if one is to love them. Love without trust is not a basis for any permanent equal relationship.
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